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How to Help Yourself When Grieving

When Grieving it can feel like you are going crazy and not sure how to help yourself. Here are some simple techniques to help yourself when grieving.  

  • Lean into the pain of your grief. We tend to want to avoid it and distract ourselves, but one of the best things you can do is lean into the pain of your grief.  Leaning in helps you move forward in your healing journey.  Grief has a way of resurfacing if we don’t deal with it even many years later.
  • Know it’s ok to not be ok sometimes!
  • Take breaks from your grief if you feel overwhelmed or if you are having a hard time functioning- do something fun or watch a funny show to give you a break. Grief is hard work!
  • Take care of yourself- get plenty of rest, eat well, drink plenty of water and exercise if you can.
  • Practice self-compassion- don’t beat yourself up if you are having a hard time and be patient with yourself.  Check out Kristin Neff and her self-compassion exercises.
  • Seek out support from friends, family, support groups or an experienced grief counselor.
  • Read about grief and loss to help you understand that what you are experiencing is normal. Join an online group for grief and loss.
  • Ask for help.  It’s not a sign of weakness to ask for help with things. 
  • Find ways to keep the connection to your loved one- write letters, talk to him/her, create rituals to honor them.
  • Try not to make any major life changes for at least 6 months to a year.  When we are grieving, we tend to be in our emotional mind and when we make decisions based solely on emotion, we tend to regret them later.
  • It’s ok to feel depressed, angry or relieved. These are normal grief feelings. 
  • Give yourself time to heal- there is no timetable on grief and the greater the loss the longer it will take to feel like yourself again.
  • If you begin to experience suicidal thoughts, seek help from a therapist, mobile crisis or go to the ER. 
  • It is ok to laugh and smile- this does not mean that you aren’t grieving, they are actually signs of life and love. 
  • Understand that your loss may trigger past losses, and this is normal. 

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Contact Kevin Daugherty at Greater LiFe Health 

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2023 US RT 9
Round Lake, NY 12151 

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